Marriage Proposal Idea, Engagement Ideas, Planning, Expert Advice and Support, Spontaneous Proposals

Now, don’t think that I am trying to say that you don’t have a romantic side or that you are not capable of being romantic, creative, or unique; I am just letting you know that there are some cold-hard facts that need to be highlighted. What we think about ourselves is not always true… Follow as I explain:

Did you know that a report published on January 23, 2008 in Newsweek Magazine confirms that men are NOT nearly as smart as we think? Adrian Furnham, a psychology professor at the prestigious University College London, analyzed 30 international studies that conclusively showed:

                “Men with average to below-average intelligence think that they are quite clever.”

Dr. Furnham found that men (across the world) overestimate our intelligence and don’t even have a clue we are doing it. We think we are clever, smart, have it all together, and that we can do just about everything right.

I would put myself in that category - - I have always thought that I had a good handle on everything. I did well enough in school to get a full academic scholarship to a major university, had better than average paying jobs, and considered myself pretty smart.

I seemed to have most things, even women, pretty much figured out. So, when I decided to propose to my (then) girlfriend, I did what most smart men do - I read as much as I could, asked other guys for advice, and remembered all the things I had seen on TV that looked cool.

I had it all planned out and it went like clockwork:

1)   Unexpected date - Surprise [so unexpected, I still can’t even tell you what date is was...]

2)   Ring [all diamonds are round and its the thought that counts?]

3)   Location: Park [how can you go wrong with a park?]

4)   Stop at first romantic looking place that we came across [happened to be a bridge]

5)   Drop to one knee [I am so charming!]

6)   Ask [actually, mumbled, but it is the thought that counts] “Will You Marry Me?”

7) Got a “Yes” [of course, what else would you expect?]

8) Job Well Done! [pat myself on the back for being so smooth and that's all folks...]

Sounds like a winner to me: This is the part where we get married, live happily ever after with a boy and girl, a 3 bedroom home, 2 cars ……..(all true)

                           Oh, I forgot to add one more             - - Divorced four years later.

Yes, it is no secret that over half of marriages end in divorce and mine did, too. Unless you have been through it, you can’t imagine the physical pains and emotional strains of the divorcing process. I would not wish that experience on my worst enemy.

Divorce has been categorized as one of the most stressful events a person can even go through. Stressful is an understatement; it is pure turmoil of emotions, irrational behavior, spite, and emptiness.

Compound these pains with the financial burden of maintaining two households with what has now become an amount approaching $100K in spousal and child support, and it is no surprise that many people struggle to ever recover from a divorce. I pay an entire working persons salary, before taxes, just in child support annually. Can you say, "Ouch.."

                                                           Don't Laugh....This Could be You.

And there are other men who try to run from this obligation find themselves subject to garnishments, license suspension, and even jail time. I’ll just pass on all those things, thank you.

You may be wondering what my story has to do with your future wife and your finances? Well, I’ m glad that you asked. I tell you all this to let you know that the experience sent me on a journey of self-discovery and lead me to a simple solution: Never get married again.

I know its not unique and is a common saying, but I was serious. And everything would have been fine, if it were not for the vision of beauty and sweetness that swept my heart away five years after my divorce. See picture below: (and YES, that is actually my wife with me on the beach in Mexico)

What would you do? You have this beautiful, smart, funny, and supportive woman that you can’t imagine living without and want nothing more than to share your world, but refuse to go through divorce again. Hmmm.. What to do? I got busy finding out: How to prevent a marriage with this wonderful woman from ending in divorce.

I began by researching everything possible about relationships, marriage, etc and came across some interesting facts that most people haven’t been made aware. Though everyone is aware that over 50% of marriages end in divorce, few people know a larger statistic that can play a major role in this divorce rate being so high:

                 An ENORMOUS 80% of women each year report being disappointed with the
                                                       Marriage Proposals we give them.

Yes, I can, without a doubt, let you know that the marriage proposal that I described in my first marriage would fall in that category. Trust Me - - I don’t have to ask my ex-wife, as I know the answer already. It was “disappointing” to say the least.

But, what was more disappointing was that there have been so few others that have written or shared this information with us guys who really need to know this stuff.

Remember that I told you earlier that Dr. Furnham's study confirming that we overestimate how clever we are? Well, this is a category that we "think we know what we are doing" but, definitely prove that we could use some serious help.

    You probably say, “There are plenty of websites and books about marriage proposals.”

Right - -And - -Wrong! There are plenty of books and websites that offer advice and ideas, but let me tell you that with over 80% of women reporting disappointment, it is obvious that these resources are not doing the trick. Let's take a look at some of them...

I have researched just about all of them, like you're doing now:

- - - - - the "love" gurus,

- - - - - the 101 ways to propose books,

- - - - - the "database" that magically gives out “three 'free' random ideas” from over 1,000

- - - - -the, services that claim, "We have hundreds of ideas to choose from..."

No surprise to found that they are all basically the same: offering a list of overused, unimaginative, and quite possibly some of the worst suggestions you could ever use (you will agree with me, after you understand a T.I.P. I give you soon).

These "resources" offer some sure-fire-winners like:

“Put the ring in a champagne glass at a fancy restaurant….” - Ask your local emergency room or dentist how great this idea is - or try one of the unfortunate women that endured the extractions or tooth repairs from guys using food, champagne glasses, etc…

“get the announcer at the local game to show you on the big screen, as you propose to her in a giant crowd of fans….” - Sure, it is very romantic it is to scream at the top of your lungs in the face of your future bride with beer breath “Will You Marry Me!!!? - - I said Will You Marry Me!!!?”

But, of course, you have never heard any of these great ideas before - right? Certainly you have - and so has your girlfriend. Take note of that:

                                                      She has already heard most of these.

NEWSFLASH: How many women like to walk into a room with another woman wearing the same outfit? Don’t you think that a marriage proposal may be slightly more important than another woman with the same dress at a party?

Please, read that last statement I put in red above, again.

If you don't get that point, you could quickly fall into the category of the 80% that failed to get it right.
Now, if you think that a book of "101 of the best canned proposals" or a database of "random ideas" can create enough possibilities for the over 2,000,000 people that get married each year - - you may already be headed for divorce, before even getting engaged.

As a note on the "random ideas": How exactly does this give any regard for the uniqueness of you and your mate’s relationship, personalities, wants, desires, fears, and even ideals. (Doesn't Work)

          Don't play Russian Roulette with the relationship, engagement, and your marriage.

So, why would I think that I could do provide a better solution after my divorce? You’ve made it this far, it's time to find out more about the guy that has been talking to you:

My post-divorce life led me into the field of professional problem solving - - I own a very successful business consulting company. I am often called by multi-million dollar companies from around the world to solve their problems.

I've earned credentials in not only statistical problem solving techniques, but have earned an internationally recognized certification in adult training development and facilitation.

I went from being the ‘TINMAN’ (foul, but honest, play on my last name Tillman) in my previous relationships to the ‘Forever Man’ in the eyes of my wonderful wife and everyone that knows us.

Without getting all too technical; let’s just say I have worked hard to be very good at solving problems, developing effective ways to deliver training to adults (short, sweet, entertaining), and began with solving my own problems to the tune of a very happy marriage.

Trust me here - - If I was going to make this up; give me credit that I would have at least come up with something like I became a 'Love Coach' - or - using a Barry White voice: 'The Love Doctor' - or even went all out and said I inspired the movie 'Hitch' (lol) - - All those would sound cooler than reality, but, I know you are not here for cool; you are here to get results - Right? So, keep reading...

To get you to those results, I will tell you some of the background for what I am going to present to you. You have to know that someone didn't just wake up one day and say, "Hey, I've solved world Hunger." And I didn't just wake up one day to determine how to assist you with your marriage proposal.

I talked and analyzed many types of women from all races, ages, income and educational levels, and couples that had been married for long periods, short periods, divorced multiple times, married only once, etc…. I studied books, websites, articles - -everything I could get my hands on about marriages, couples, psychology, proposals, until it oozed out of my pores.

         I actually did all the hard work and now you can reap the benefits of my findings.

In a nutshell, I now can provide - in quick, easy to understand bits of information - the innner secrets of an engagement that will put your future wife with the 20% that were satisfied with their marriage proposal. If you are really committed to being with the woman you love for a lifetime and saving yourself emotional and financial hardship; you will not want to miss one word of what I have found out.

But first, recognize that I did not put this information together to build a book, website, or any other venture: I did this all to Make Sure My Marriage Would Last.

That is important to know. I will be the first to admit that the things I do for personal reasons, get my best and most dedicated effort. Therefore, to make sure that I could spend the rest of my life with the beautiful (inside and out) woman that is pictured above:

                 I developed an indispensible guide - for myself - to create a perfect proposal.

The results were amazing - - not only are we happily married to the point that people constantly ask how we manage to do it; the marriage proposal is still a topic of discussion to this very day. Yes, after creating my personal guide, I used the principles to make a marriage proposal so amazing that not only do we talk about it years later, but family and friends still reference it! (And I did it all for less than $150, not including the ring)

Interesting thing that I found in my research - - this was actually a common occurence - - talking about the proposal many years later. It was not about being the most spectacular, expensive, or exciting event, but, they all fit into a simple formula:

                              The formula for the best marriage proposals is my T.I.P. for you.

The T.I.P. was my way of condensing everything I learned about the successful relationships and how to develop a truly amazing, memorable marriage proposal. It works regardless of who, when, where, how, or what you want to do.

The T.I.P. is my abbreviation for:

To see a newspaper article of a guy that actually used my T.I.P. in his marriage proposal - - Click Here!

The T.I.P. approach to marriage proposals is the most straightforward and useful information that you will ever find to create a memorable, unique, and creative marriage proposal.

I kept this to myself for a while, but finally shared it with my wife (we talk about everything) - who shared it with all her friends, family, and everyone she could ever meet. She convinced me that it would be selfish and unfair not to share it with others that could benefit from this fantastic approach to marriage proposals - especially the women who face poorly planned, re-run proposals.

So, not long ago, I started a simple website and considered it a "sideline business" to offer services to a few people that I thought would seek help. I thought is would be on a part-time basis. I never would have imagine so many people, just like you, were interested:

--- Google PageRank 2 almost overnight,

--- Over 1,000 links to the site from other websites,

--- 27,482 unique visitors and growing (777 on just one day) , and interest from all across the world (contact from people, businesses, and media in USA, France, Japan, others…)

You REALLY need to see this example of my T.I.P. used to perfection - - - Click Here!

Good thing I trademarked the concept name - preposals (USPTO Reg# 3,259,539).

FYI: I chose the name preposals, as that is what I truly feel it is: It’s What REALLY comes first. Before the actual marriage proposal, it is the pre-work to ensure that you get into the happy 20%.

But, I never planned for it to be so successful (Dr. Furnham has proven himself right again about not being as smart as we think we actually are...). I am just too busy with my primary business to assist everyone that makes requests and decided that the best way to help the most people was to rewrite my simple, personal guide into a usable version. So, I proudly present:

Included in my priceless guide are a wealth of easy-to-digest and apply information like:

Intimate doesn’t only come in the bedroom (The way to touch intimately with thoughtful actions and words)

Top ten mistakes guys make in a proposal (You don’t ever want to make any of these mistakes)

Just call me Casanova (How any man can be seen as the most romantic man she ever met - if even for just a day)

Is it the right time? (How to know EXACTLY the right time for the proposal)

"PERFECT!” is not “Perfect” (It only needs to be “perfect” for her, not anyone else)

You only have this moment… Make the most of it (Every wedding story begins with “he proposed…”)

How to assure a yes, but still keep your intentions a secret (Indirect ways to assure you get a direct answer -
"Yes", of course)

Public places vs. private settings (some places are good, some bad, and either can be ugly)

When in doubt - Don’t (A hard look at yourself and the relationship to consider before proposing)

Is that a “combo”? (Considerations and ways to include kids from a former relationship in the proposal)

The EX-Factor (Do not let an ex-spouse create issues that hinder your proposal - or thoughts to move ahead)

Never say, “Can’t” (Ways to make the dream proposal a reality regardless of budget, time, etc)

Been there and done that? (For those that have been married before)

Never too old (How and why to make it special even if you are not the youngest couple)

Spontaneous doesn’t mean you can’t plan (If she doesn’t know about it - it’s spontaneous to her)

And MANY MORE….

*****Also included are areas dedicated to Saving You Money on Engagement Rings and Other Services that may be useful in your marriage proposal*****

A ring is NOT a ring (Tips on how I got to get a certified diamond ring for HALF the retail price)

Why do fools fall in love? (Don’t let your money be spent foolishly on a more lavish proposal or wedding than you can afford)

You never know until you ask (Many service providers will offer discounts and assistance beyond your dreams to help with your proposal)

Propose virtually anywhere in the world for less than you think (A secret that could save you lots of money and create an amazing proposals destination)

and So Much More…

This practical and useful guide is not only an investment in assuring that you create a creative, romantic, dream marriage proposal for your future wife; It also shares ways to express your love in ways you didn’t even know you were capable.

Part of the reason the marriage proposal is so important in the success of a marriage is its role in establishing a good foundation for the marriage. In every marriage, there will be times that the two of you disagree and the relationship will be tested. Having put forth the effort in creating a T.I.P. marriage proposal, you will have shown your dedication to her and it is something that can be referenced in times of turbulence.

I know that my T.I.P. proposal has helped me to reference the level of thoughtfulness that I had going into the marriage with my wonderful wife and it helps to assure that we keep working to have a successful and enjoyable relationship, to this day.

Don’t take a chances with trying to do what over 80% of men have proven does not work.

I highly encourage you (and your future wife would do the same) to immediately get a copy of:

The guide is currently being offered in electronic form, as you probably don't want to have to hide it when she is at your apartment or home. You can conveniently read it, use it, and ensure that your marriage proposal actually makes you look like Casanova (if even for one day).

To Your Lasting Happiness - - beginning with Success in Your T.I.P. Marriage Proposal,

Rob Tillman
President and Founder
preposals LLC

preposals® -It's What REALLY Comes First.

PS: If you think have any doubts whether this is a good investment, you should ask any man that has to pay alimony or child support how much he would have paid for such a guide before his unsuccessful marriage.

PPS: If you are still reading and haven’t decided to order preposals® -T.I.P. for the "Perfect" Marriage Proposal… The Ultimate (but, simple) How-To-Guide, you should at least bookmark this page.
[Hint: Rename the Link to prevent your special someone from finding it].
(Or better, yet, just get your copy today so that you can clear the browsing history and keep your plans a secret.)

PPPS: You should know that I am considering publishing the guide for availability in stores nationwide, soon. Though much more profitable for me, it would increase the price of the guide, as the trade paperback version would retail for $19.99. I would recommend that you get this e-guide version, now, while it is still available.

PPPPS: Even if you don’t order the guide, PLEASE save a marriage and use the T.I.P. that was provided for creating your marriage proposal. It can only help and there is no way you can say that is would hurt your chances for success...

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