Articles, Critical questions to answer in a marriage proposal

(8) At least you know two of the five things to consider…

Back in school, we learned that there are five basic questions to consider in most situations: Who, What, When, Where, and How. Well, when it comes to a marriage proposal, you have at least answered two of the five - Who and What. To determine the other three, there will have to be some thought put into the situation and surely a plan will be developed. This plan for your proposal is a great tool to insure that the “who” will be pleased with “what” you plan to do.

So, let’s begin with the most critical element - When. The timing of the proposals is one of the most important determinations that you will have to encounter. There are many areas of timing that will have to be addressed such as: 1) time in the relationship, 2) time factors of items that are currently occurring in both your lives, and 3) the timing that you have of picking the right moment to “pop the question.” All these timing elements require that you be patient and be aware of the queues that your mate give to you. Your mate will provide good indications of when the timing is right in the relationship and when the moment is right to accept the question, “Will you marry me?” But, you may have to be patient and understand that even if you have made a plan to do it on a certain day, flexibility and re-scheduling may be required. Examples of this may be that an emergency or family crisis has occurred very close to the day that you planned. It would be very wise to re-plan your proposal than to try to force the situation, just because you made plans.

In regards to the “where” of your proposal, a few places that should be avoided are loud and very active places. It is a very romantic moment and it is hard to be romantic while yelling over an abundance of background noise. You will either sound like a maniac or have your voice raise a few octaves when you raise it, so it is probably better for you to be in a place that you can talk at a more appropriate level. In other words, whatever place where you pick, the noise level should be one that you can still maintain a level of romance and assure that she can hear you.

When it comes to the “How,” this will probably be the hardest of the three. There are a million ways for every single relationship and person, but there is a T.I.P. that you can use to make sure that whatever how you use will be appropriate. Being Thoughtful about the relationship, sharing a level of Intimacy that only you can, and Planning for success will guide your “How” to be perfect. Understand that Perfect does not mean that it will be idealistically without flaws, but it will the “perfectly received” by your mate as the proposal just right for her.

So, when it comes to answering the critical questions about marriage proposals, you can be sure that you get 2-of-5 right. With a little effort on the other three, I am confident that you should be able to get all five correct on your way to getting the only right answer that you want from your mate - “Yes!”

Rob Tillman is the President and Co-Founder of preposals®, a consulting company specializing in marriage proposal planning services. For more articles like this and many other resources for planning an unforgettable marriage proposal, go to www.preposals.com or call us at (877) P-POSALS. preposals® ...It's what REALLY comes first.

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