Romantic Proposal Ideas, Creative Marriage Proposals, Engagement Planning, Advice, Guidance, Tips

Now, don’t think that I am trying to say that you don’t have a romantic side or that you are not capable of being romantic, creative, or unique; I am just letting you know that there are some cold-hard facts that need to be highlighted. What we think about ourselves is not always true… Follow as I explain:

Did you know that a report published on January 23, 2008 in Newsweek Magazine confirms that men are NOT nearly as smart as we think? Adrian Furnham, a psychology professor at the prestigious University College London, analyzed 30 international studies that conclusively showed:

                “Men with average to below-average intelligence think that they are quite clever.”

Dr. Furnham found that men (across the world) overestimate our intelligence and don’t even have a clue we are doing it. We think we are clever, smart, have it all together, and that we can do just about everything right.

I would put myself in that category - - I have always thought that I had a good handle on everything. I did well enough in school to get a full academic scholarship to a major university, had better than average paying jobs, and considered myself pretty smart.

I seemed to have most things, even women, pretty much figured out. So, when I decided to propose to my (then) girlfriend, I did what most smart men do - I read as much as I could, asked other guys for advice, and remembered all the things I had seen on TV that looked cool.

I had it all planned out and it went like clockwork:

1)   Unexpected date - Surprise [so unexpected, I still can’t even tell you what date is was...]

2)   Ring [all diamonds are round and it is the thought that counts?]

3)   Location: Park [how can you go wrong with a park?]

4)   Stop at first romantic looking place that we came across [happened to be a bridge]

5)   Drop to one knee [I am so charming!]

6)   Ask [actually, mumbled, but it is the thought that counts] “Will You Marry Me?”

7) Got a “Yes” [of course, what else would you expect?]

8) Job Well Done! [pat myself on the back for being so smooth and that's all folks...]

Sounds like a winner to me: This is the part where we get married, live happily ever after with a boy and girl, a 3 bedroom home, 2 cars ……..(all true)

                           Oh, I forgot to add one more             - - Divorced four years later.

Yes, it is no secret that over half of marriages end in divorce and mine did, too. Unless you have been through it, you can’t imagine the physical pains and emotional strains of the divorcing process. I would not wish that experience on my worst enemy.

Divorce has been categorized as one of the most stressful events a person can ever go through. Stressful is an understatement; it is pure turmoil of emotions, irrational behavior, spite, and emptiness.

Compound these pains with the financial burden of maintaining two households with what has now become an amount approaching $100K in spousal and child support, and it is no surprise that many people struggle to ever recover from a divorce. I pay an entire working person's salary (before taxes) just in child support, annually. Can you say, "Ouch.."

                                                           Don't Laugh....This Could be You.

And there are other men who try to run from this obligation only to find themselves facing garnishments, license suspensions, and even jail time. I’ll just pass on all those things, thank you.

You may be wondering what my story has to do with your future wife and your finances? Well, I’ m glad that you asked. I tell you all this to let you know that the experience sent me on a journey of self-discovery and lead me to a simple solution: Never get married again.

I know its not unique and is a common saying, but I was serious. And everything would have been fine, if it were not for the vision of beauty and sweetness that swept my heart away five years after my divorce. See picture below: (and YES, that is actually my wife with me on the beach in Mexico)

What would you do? You have this beautiful, smart, funny, and supportive woman that you can’t imagine living without and want nothing more than to share your world, but refuse to go through divorce again. Hmmm.. What to do? I got busy finding out: How to prevent a marriage with this wonderful woman from ending in divorce.

I began by researching everything possible about relationships, marriage, etc and came across some interesting facts that most people haven’t been made aware. Though everyone is aware that over 50% of marriages end in divorce, few people know a larger statistic that can play a major role in this divorce rate being so high:

                 An ENORMOUS 80% of women each year report being disappointed with the
                                                       Marriage Proposals we give them.

Yes, I can, without a doubt, let you know that the marriage proposal that I described in my first marriage would fall in that category. Trust Me - - I don’t have to ask my ex-wife, as I know the answer already. It was “disappointing” to say the least.

But, what was more disappointing was that there have been so few others that have written or shared this information with us guys who really need to know this stuff.

Remember that I told you earlier that Dr. Furnham's study confirmed that we overestimate how clever we are? Well, this is a category that we "think we know what we are doing" but, definitely prove that we could use some serious help.

    You probably say, “There are plenty of websites and books about marriage proposals.”

Right - -And - -Wrong! There are plenty of books and websites that offer advice and ideas, but let me tell you that with over 80% of women reporting disappointment, it is obvious that these resources are not doing the trick. Let's take a look at some of them...

I have researched just about all of them, like you're doing now:

- - - - - the "love" gurus,

- - - - - the 101 ways to propose books,

- - - - - the "database" that magically gives out “three 'free' random ideas” from over 1,000

- - - - -the services that claim, "We have hundreds of ideas to choose from..."

No surprise to found that they are all basically the same: offering a list of overused, unimaginative, and quite possibly some of the worst suggestions you could ever use (you will agree with me, after you understand a T.I.P. I give you soon).

These "resources" offer some sure-fire-winners like:

“Put the ring in a champagne glass at a fancy restaurant….” - Ask your local emergency room or dentist how great this idea is - or try one of the unfortunate women that endured the extractions or tooth repairs from guys using food, champagne glasses, etc…

“get the announcer at the local game to show you on the big screen, as you propose to her in a giant crowd of fans….” - Sure, it is very romantic to scream at the top of your lungs in the face of your future bride (with beer breath) “Will You Marry Me!!!? - - I said - - Will You Marry Me!!!?”

But, of course, you have never heard any of these great ideas before, huh? Certainly you have - and so has your girlfriend. Take note of that:

                                                She has already heard most of these and many others.

NEWSFLASH: How many women like to walk into a room with another woman wearing the same outfit? ZERO! Don’t you think that a marriage proposal may be slightly more important than another woman with the same dress at a party?

Please, read that last statement in red above, again, and again, and again,and...

If you don't get that point, you could quickly fall into the category of the 80% that failed to get it right.
Now, if you think that a book of "101 of the best canned proposals" or a database of "random ideas" can create enough possibilities for the over 2,000,000 people that get married each year - - you may already be headed for divorce (before even getting engaged).

As a note on the "random ideas": How exactly does this give any regard for the uniqueness of you and your mate’s relationship, personalities, wants, desires, ....? (Better odds to try your luck in Las Vegas)

          Don't play Russian Roulette with the relationship, engagement, and your marriage.

So, why would you think that I could provide a better solution after my divorce? You’ve made it this far, it's time to find out more about the guy that has been talking to you:

My post-divorce life led me into the field of professional problem solving - - I own a very successful business consulting company. I am called by multi-million dollar companies from all around the world to solve their problems (using advanced root-cause analysis methods. ie: getting to the real problem)

I compliment this with an international certification for effective training of adult learners. (Adults are much harder than kids - we only want to learn stuff we can understand easily and use now).

I went from being the ‘TINMAN’ (foul, but honest, play on my last name Tillman) in my previous relationships to the ‘Forever Man’ in the eyes of my wonderful wife and everyone that knows us.

In a nutshell, I've worked hard to be very good at solving problems, developing effective ways to give useful information to adults (short, sweet, entertaining), and personally used all this to the tune of a very happy marriage.

Trust me here - - If I was going to make this up; give me some credit that I would have at least come up with something like I became a 'Love Coach' - or - using a Barry White voice: 'The Love Doctor' - or even went all out and said I inspired the movie 'Hitch' (lol) - - All those would sound cooler than reality, but, I know you are not here for cool; you are here to get results. So, keep reading...

To get you to those results, I will tell you some of the background of what I am going to tell you. You have to know that someone didn't just wake up one day and say, "Hey, I've solved world Hunger." And I didn't just wake up one day and say, "I can solve marriage proposal problems. "

It took time -a year before proposing - and I talked and analyzed many types of women from all races, ages, income and educational levels, and couples that had been married for long periods, short periods, divorced multiple times, married only once, etc…. I studied books, websites, articles - -everything I could get my hands on about marriages, couples, psychology, proposals, until it oozed out of my pores.

         I actually did all the hard work and now you can reap the benefits of my findings.

Because of my background in training, I now can provide - in quick, easy to understand bits of information - the innner secrets of an engagement that can put your future wife with the 20% that had great marriage proposals. If you are really committed to being with the beautiful woman you love for a lifetime ; you will not want to miss one word of what I have found out.

But first, you have to know that I did not put this information together to build a book, website, or anything other than one purpose: I did this all to Make Sure My Marriage Would Last.

That is important to know. I will be the first to admit that the things I do for personal reasons usually get my best and most dedicated effort. Therefore, to make sure that I could spend the rest of my life with the amazing woman that you saw in the picture earlier and propose the right way:

                 I developed an indispensible guide - for myself - to create a perfect proposal.

The results were amazing - - not only are we happily married to the point that people constantly ask how we manage to do it; the marriage proposal is still a topic of discussion to this very day. Yes, after creating my personal guide, I used the principles to make a marriage proposal so amazing that not only do we talk about it years later, but family and friends still reference it! (And I did it all for less than $150, not including the ring)

Interesting thing that I found in my research - - this was actually pretty common - - talking about the most creative, romantic, unique marriage proposals many years later. It was not about being the most spectacular, expensive, or exciting event - - it all boils down to a simple formula:

                              The formula for the best marriage proposals is my T.I.P. for you.

The T.I.P. was my way of condensing everything I learned about the successful marriages and how to develop a truly amazing, memorable, out-of-the-box marriage proposal. It works regardless of who, when, where, how, or what you want to do.

The T.I.P. formula for the best marriage proposal is always:

To see a newspaper article of a guy that actually used my T.I.P. in his marriage proposal - - Click Here!
The T.I.P. approach to marriage proposals can make a Casanova out of just about anyone by proposing marriage in a special, romantic, memorable, unique, and creative way.

I kept this to myself for a while, but finally shared it with my wife (we share everything) - who shared it with all her friends, family, and everyone she could ever meet. She convinced me that it would be such a waste and unfair not to share it with others that could benefit from this fantastic approach to marriage proposals - especially the women who face poorly planned, proposal disasters.

So, not long ago, I started a simple website and considered it a "sideline business" to offer advice and guidance to a few people that I thought would seek help with marriage proposals. I thought this would be only a small task. I never could have imagined so many people, just like you, needed proposal advice:

--- Google PageRank 2 almost overnight,

--- Over 1,000 links to the site from other websites,

--- tons of traffic (in the top 17.15% of all websites) , and interest from all across the world - All walks of life men, businesses, and media in USA, France, Japan, others…

      You REALLY need to see this example of my T.I.P. used to perfection - - - Click Here!

Good thing I trademarked the concept name - preposals (USPTO Reg# 3,259,539).

FYI: I chose the name preposals, as that is what I truly feel it is: It’s What REALLY comes first. Before the actual marriage proposal, it is the pre-work to ensure that you get into the happy 20%.

But, I never planned for it to get to this level (Dr. Furnham has proven himself right about us guys not being as smart as we think we actually are again...). I am just too busy with my consulting business to assist everyone that makes requests, so I decided a great way to help was to rewrite my simple, personal, marriage proposal guide into a format to share with you. I named my advice:

Included in my priceless guide are easy-to-read and apply proposals tips like:

Intimate doesn’t only come in the bedroom (The way to touch intimately with thoughtful actions and words)

Top ten mistakes guys make in a proposal (You don’t ever want to make any of these mistakes)

Just call me Casanova (How any man can be seen as the most romantic man she ever met - if even for just a day)

Is it the right time? (How to know EXACTLY the right time for the proposal)

"PERFECT!” is not “Perfect” (It only needs to be “perfect” for her, not anyone else)

You only have this moment… Make the most of it (Every wedding story begins with “he proposed…”)

How to assure a yes, but still keep your intentions a secret (Indirect ways to assure you get a direct answer -
"Yes", of course)

Public places vs. private settings (some places are good, some bad, and either can be ugly)

When in doubt - Don’t (A hard look at yourself and the relationship to consider before proposing)

Is that a “combo”? (Considerations and ways to include kids from a former relationship in the proposal)

The EX-Factor (Do not let an ex-spouse create issues that hinder your proposal - or thoughts to move ahead)

Never say, “Can’t” (Ways to make the dream proposal a reality regardless of budget, time, etc)

Been there and done that? (For those that have been married before)

Never too old (How and why to make it special even if you are not the youngest couple)

Spontaneous doesn’t mean you can’t plan (If she doesn’t know about it - it’s spontaneous to her)

And MANY MORE….

I also included advice to Save You Money When Purchasing an Engagement Rings and Other Services useful in your marriage proposal like:

A ring is NOT a ring (Tips on how I got to get a certified diamond ring for HALF the retail price)

Why do fools fall in love? (Don’t let your money be spent foolishly on a more lavish proposal or wedding than you can afford)

You never know until you ask (Many service providers will offer discounts and assistance beyond your dreams to help with your proposal)

Propose virtually anywhere in the world for less than you think (A secret that could save you lots of money and create an amazing proposals destination)

Just too many things to list here...

This practical and useful advice is not only an investment in to help you create a creative, romantic, dream marriage proposal for your future wife; It also shares things to consider before a marriage proposal that you may not have ever considered.

One of the reasons the marriage proposal is so important in the success of a long-term relationship is its role in establishing a good foundation for the marriage. In EVERY marriage, there will be times that the two of you disagree and the relationship will be tested. Having put forth the effort in creating a T.I.P. marriage proposal, you will have shown your dedication to her and it will become something you can be look back upon when times get tough for you two.

I know that my T.I.P. proposal has helped me to reference the level of thoughtfulness that I had going into our marriage with my wonderful wife and it helps to ensure that we keep working to have a successful and enjoyable relationship, to this very day. The engagement was just the beginning.

              Don’t take a chances by proposing how 80% of men have proven does not work.

I highly encourage you (and your future wife would do the same) to immediately get:

Take the advice today, as you may find out that your proposal plans might take a while to develop.
You can never get it too soon. Get it, read it, use it, and be assured that when you drop to one knee, you actually will look like Casanova (if even for one day).

To Your Lasting Happiness (beginning with Success in Your T.I.P. Marriage Proposal),

Rob Tillman
President and Founder
preposals LLC

preposals® -It's What REALLY Comes First.

PS: If you think have any doubts whether this is a good investment, you should ask any man that has lost his family and has to pay alimony or child support how much he would have paid for useful proposal advice to not go through the divorcing process.

PPS: If you are still reading and haven’t decided to order preposals® -T.I.P. for the "Perfect" Marriage Proposal… The Ultimate (but, simple) How-To-Guide, I hope you have bookmarked this page.
[Hint: Rename the Link to prevent your girlfriend from finding out your engagement plans].
(Or better, yet, get your copy today so that you can clear the browsing history and keep your proposal plans a secret.)

PPPS:You should know that I have considered publishing the guide for availability in stores nationwide, soon. This would, unfortunately, increase the price of the guide; as a basic paperback version would retail for $19.99. I recommend that you get this e-guide version, now, while it is still available at the low price of $4.99!

PPPPS: Even if you don’t order the guide, PLEASE save a marriage and use the T.I.P. when you "Pop The Question " - (propose marriage). It is, without a doubt, the best guidance for a Romantic, Creative, Unique, and Memorable marriage proposal which is a good foundation for a successful marriage...

PPPPPS: I do still offer personalized marriage proposal advice and planning services to a very select few clients. It is not cheap, but the results are amazing in how I am able to use specialized techniques to tap deep into your relationship with your future wife to find the ultimate T.I.P. marriage proposal. I only take serious inquries and you can reach me at rob (a t) preposals ( d o t ) com. Don't like spam, so if you are a human, you know what to do with the email address =)~.

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